11 self-destructive habits to quit

Do you sometimes feel there’s something stopping you from making a change in your life? From reaching your full potential? Today we want to talk about some bad habits and self-destructive behaviors that many of us practice to self-sabotage and stay stuck. Without even knowing.

Tomorrow is the start of a new month – the solid time to set a goal and let go of some of these horrible habits.

11 Self-Destructive Habits To Stop

1. Complaining

In reality, complaining is a way of looking for sympathy from others or yourself. You don’t need to take responsibility for your actions when people feel sorry for you, right? You’re having a hard time, so you can’t be expected to do great. But, on the other hand, if you’re doing great, people might get jealous, right?

So many reasons to complain in life. And yet, it somehow makes everything bitter. Because it stops you from wholeheartedly being yourself and reaching your full potential. Complaining is nothing but making excuses for not doing everything you want to do in life.

A good idea to stop complaining is to start expressing gratitude. We forget we have food on the table and running water all the time, that’s something to be grateful for. Make a list and start thinking of what’s right in the world.

2. Not Listening To The Inner Wisdom

You know the one that tells you, “Don’t eat cookies for breakfast today, drink some water – you’ll feel so good mentally and physically!” Then, you hear that jerk, the inner rebel, that liar with his high-pitched voice:

“Why not? That’s stupid. You are able to eat cookies in the morning and then eat healthy throughout the day and finish everything you want. Today’s different.”

That guy is almost always wrong and never worth listening to, especially in the morning. And let us tell you, he’s a loser who doesn’t do anything. So whenever you recognize that inner wisdom talking to you, listen to it and do what it says.

3. The Big Beat Up

Well, in case you did number 2 (<- hey we didn’t even plan this!), what follows is the big beat up. That’s you, beating yourself up for listening to that “inner rebel” and screwing yourself over and over again. We shouldn’t have done this, what was we thinking, it’s our fault, we're a loser, we don’t do anything right, we did it again, we'll never change.

Don’t indulge in that behavior. Putting yourself down isn’t helpful. And we mean, we all know this, we’re not kids, but we still do it. We carry that guilt with us, and then we feel guilty about beating ourselves up. It’s a ridiculous never-ending story. So if you can, whenever you’ve let that inner rebel fool you into doing things you’re not proud of, have compassion for yourself. Not self-pity, but compassion. Forgive yourself for not being able to do everything right and do your best next time. You’ll be okay with not being solid if you know you’ve done your best. It doesn’t need to be a new day, you can reset any moment you decide to.

4. Overthinking

Whenever you have an idea, or feel like you want to say or do something – don’t take too long to act on it. And by act, we mean, either start and finish it, take a note, or just let it go, dismiss it. Get it out of your mind, so you don’t make this thing a bigger deal than it needs to be.

Otherwise overthinking can make your life pretty miserable as that whole fear of doing or saying something wrong can affect your relationships, your work, and your health.

5. Starting, But Not Finishing Things That Matter

When it comes to the important things: follow through, even if it’s not fun all the time. If you have 10 half-finished projects, guess what? You’ll think about each and every one of them all the time and you’ll be stressed. New ideas will also start to pile up, but hey, you don’t have time to work on them right now. But let’s start them. So you start to feel like you’re suffocating and because procrastination is a form of relaxation – you end up doing nothing.

To us, there are few things that feel as good as following through and finishing projects and ideas that have been occupying our mind for weeks OR months. Starting things is a start, but working through and finishing them is the real win.

6. Believing You Have To Struggle

Do you sometimes find yourself judging people who have something you want, but don’t have? They don’t seem to work as hard as you, so they don’t deserve it, right? It could be anything: weight loss, relationships, career…

We had this for a long time. And if we're honest, which we are, we still, sometimes have it. But the thing is, us judging others for finding different, easier, better ways to achieve something that we want is not helping anyone. Especially myself. Because letting yourself do something that is simple, to achieve something you want and is worth it, is not cheating on yourself or your values. You don’t need to struggle to deserve something. You know you want it, do what you have to do and then when it comes: accept and celebrate it. Without going into the drama of how it was too simple, so it’s not worth it.

7. Assuming Nobody Likes You

Assumptions are just that. And they can be painful and wrong. But let us just say this: whether people like you or not, is none of your business, really. As long as you like yourself.

If you’re true to yourself and are doing the things you know make you happy, working on the goals you deserve to achieve and aren’t disappointing yourself every step of the way, you’re doing pretty great.

So work on yourself and stop worrying about what others think of you. There’s a big chance that if you’re doing something great, there will be someone who doesn’t like you, even if you’re as cute as a baby Pomeranian. And that’s okay.

8. Talking When You Don’t Need To

Today, if you don’t have an opinion about everything that’s happening in the world, why are you even here? If you don’t answer a million questions from strangers to just network with them – you’re an introvert and a weirdo.

Honestly, it’s exhausting. Trust yourself enough to say: we don’t know. Sometimes, even, “we don’t care” is okay. Saying nothing is also an option. Save that time and energy for something you’re interested in.

9. Adding Other People’s Excuses To Your List

It’s great to have company when you’re changing your life and when you’re creating new habits. Just sometimes, people don’t feel like changing as quickly as you. So they self-sabotage. But because you’re there, they sabotage you as well.

Example: You and your friend are going to the gym because you want to lose weight. You train for an hour and then it’s time to go home. But that friend suggests having pizza because you worked so hard at the gym and you burned so many calories. And then you do it.

See it’s not enough that you need to deal with the inner rebel inside you, now you need to worry about the inner rebel inside your friend. That guy can say things out loud, he’s dangerous. So here, you need to either talk some sense into your friend and remind her why you’re both doing this or if it repeatedly doesn’t work – accept it and do stuff on your own.

10. Preparing For The Right Moment

Newsflash: There isn’t the right moment. But while you’re perfecting your strategy and preparing, you’re missing out on opportunities. Opportunities that might turn into something bigger, notable, unexpected and beautiful.

So start any moment you feel inspired and then when you fall off, start again as many times as you should. Because when you take action, you ALWAYS attract opportunities, you become more open to them.

11. Believing Discipline is for Losers.

Lack of self-discipline has been a part of our life for quite a while now. And it’s only lead us to more guilt, overthinking and losing respect for myself. But we've found out – the more we work on it, the more we become the person we truly am – someone we actually want to be.

Be disciplined about everything in life – work, home, fun. Take yourself, your deadlines and your promises to yourself seriously. Like you would do with a friend or someone you look up to.

When you say “we'll work 6 hours today” – actually work 6 hours that day and then be disciplined enough to go and rest after. If you have made plans, follow them.

Becoming self-discpilined is about allowing yourself to succeed in everything you want.

When you get disciplined that whole stress that comes with procrastination and the constant beat up – it all just evaporates, it goes away. And you feel good and proud of yourself.

11 self-destructive habits to quit